100+ Narcissistic Parent Quotes Read: Before You Lose Them

A narcissistic parent is overly protective of their children and fears that they will grow up to be independent. Children with narcissistic parents are frequently humiliated and shamed, and they develop low self-esteem as a result. These children frequently grow up to be high achievers, self-saboteurs, or both. Children who have been harmed by this type of parent will require professional assistance in order to heal from narcissistic abuse.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental illness characterized by an exaggerated feeling of self-importance, a strong desire for praise, and a lack of empathy for others. Behind the façade of extreme confidence, however, is fragile self-esteem that is easily shattered by the smallest criticism.

Although not all parents suffer from a narcissistic personality disorder, it's usually for a narcissistic mother or father to exhibit narcissistic characteristics, which can be just as harmful when raising a child. It might be difficult to recognize the indicators of narcissistic abuse, but there are a few similar features among narcissistic family members and parents.

Here are 17 possible signs of a narcissistic parent:

• Constantly requiring that the topic of conversation be about them
• Irrational and self-centered behavior
• Others may brag about your accomplishments, but they rarely acknowledge or support you emotionally.
• blaming others for whatever troubles you may be experiencing that are caused by their own actions.
• When no one is seeing, you are well-liked and essential to others, but when no one is looking, you are domineering and harsh.
• Making you feel awful for not immediately doing what you desire.
• By boasting about how much they have done for you, they make you feel guilty.
• At home, he is vehemently opinionated, yet he puts on a brave face for others.
• Being brutal and merciless, and doing whatever it takes to stay on top.
• Anxiety and reduced confidence are common side effects.
• Being unable to attend important life events.
• Despite your inclinations, forcing you to participate in sports or other activities.
• Using you for personal benefit by failing to provide warmth and emotional nourishment in the relationship.
• When you require time and attention, you are bothered and annoyed.
• Making lousy excuses to keep our time together limited.
• Unpredictable mood swings and erratic anger.

Top Narcissistic Parent Quotes

“Narcissist parents don’t care about their children’s feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.” -Kim Saeed

“Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.” – Henry Cloud

“Narcissist parents want total control. Take back your control. If possible, don’t accept any money, favor, items or anything from them.” – Tina Fuller

“The hateful and stinging words of a narcissistic parent can linger in the mind of an adult child long after the adult has left home.” – Shannon Thomas

“Narcissist parents do not know their children; they aren’t interested in what they have to say unless it affects them.” – Tina Fuller

“A narcissistic parent will provoke an independent child to anger in order to feel superior and prove the child’s flaws.” – Shannon Thomas

“A narcissist parent is easily frustrated by a healthy independent child that they can’t control through parental emotional manipulation.” – Shannon Thomas

“If we, as mothers, are not careful, we can begin to find our identity in our children and their behavior.” – Sue Detweiler

“In the narcissistic parent’s eyes, they do no wrong nor do they feel they should be held accountable for the bad and wrong things that they have done.” – Katherine Childress

“Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love.” ― M. Wakefield

Narcissistic parents believe they own their children. Whatever they do for the child is considered a sacrifice, so the child always has a debt to pay. Whatever the child achieves is owned by the parent too. Perhaps it was the parent’s constant nagging or urging that got the child there, or maybe it was the parent’s genes or talents that made the success possible. And the achievements only matter if they please the parent or give him something to brag about. It is always all about them. ~Randi Fine

“How many narcissists does it take to screw in a light bulb? None, they don’t use light bulbs, they use gaslighting!”

“Love without sacrifice is like theft” ― Nassim Nicholas Taleb

“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.” ― Brené Brown

If you hold onto hurt and anger the children will have no normal parent. The narcissistic parent will use them as puppets, lovebomb, and abandon them. You are their only hope. @TRACYMALONE

“Dysfunctional parents do not apologize. It is one feature that the children of narcissists would instantly agree on. They will lie and justify themselves, but never accept they did anything wrong.” ― Diana Macey

"Exercising power & control to punish a fit & caring parent or family member by withholding their demonstrations of love from a child, is parent alienation. There is no justification for making the pool of love for a child any less than as big as it possibly can be. None." -- @narcwise.com

“By undermining you they make sure that if you complain about the narcissistic parent nobody will believe you because they already have a certain negative image of you. Again, this abusive behavior is just how narcissists live day today. The plotting and manipulation is necessary to twist others around their false image.” ― Diana Macey

“Children of narcissistic parents are often turned against their siblings in a competition to vie for the affection and love they always craved but never received.” @RebelliousGoat

“Narcissists don’t see their children as separate people that have a right to experience life from their own angle. There is no option in their heads in which the kids will be in charge of their own lives ‘unaided’ by the narcissist.” ― Diana Macey

 

Quotes For Selfish And Narcissistic Parents

• “Being a selfish parent is a sign of not having learned from experience.”
• “Parents forgive their children least readily for the faults they themselves instilled in them.”
• “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.”
• “I want someday to be able to love with the same intensity and unselfishness that parents love their children with.”
• “Selfish people lost so much in life because even when they realize they are wrong, they don’t know how to ask for forgiveness or show regrets.”
• “It is the selfish parents who are to blame. Pay attention, be involved in your children’s lives. They are your legacy, your only hope.” — Aaron B. Powell
• “Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”
• “They should love you, just as you are. Parents should love their kids, right?” “You’d think so.” ― N.R. Walker, Spencer Cohen, Book Three
• “All parents believe their children can do the impossible. They thought it the minute we were born, and no matter how hard we’ve tried to prove them wrong, they all think it about us now. And the really annoying thing is, they’re probably right.”
• “If all the people in this world, in which we live, were as selfish as a few of the people in this world, in which we live, there would be no world in which to live.”

Quotes For Parents Who  Are Narcissistic

• “Children shouldn’t have to sacrifice so that you can have the life you want. You make sacrifices so your children can have the life that they deserve.”
• “Being a parent shouldn’t be when it is convenient for you. It is a 24 hours-a-day, 7 days a week, 365 days-a-year commitment.”
•  “As a parent, you should be more concerned with your child’s happiness than your petty insecurities and jealousies. Just a thought!
• “Your mother’s happiness is not your responsibility. It has never been.”
• “Anyone can have a child and call themselves “a parent”. A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.”
• “Real dads support their children without the law telling them they have to.”
• “Your children become who you are; so be who you want them to be.”
• “Don’t anger your parents in order to please other people. Those other people did not spend their lives building yours.”
• “To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.”
• “Just remember when you are ignoring them, you are teaching them to live without you.”

Quotes For Bad and Narcissistic Parents

• “Denying a child the joy and memories of being with the other parent is an act of “pure evil”.
• “Respond to your children with love in their worst moments, their broken moments, their angry moments, and their selfish moments because it is in their most unlovable human moments that they most need to feel loved.”
• “There should be an anti-father day. A bad dad’s day. That way I could truly say “you are the best.”
• “It hurts to have a child removed from you for no reason at all. But think about the pain of the child who is being used to hurt you. Now that’s painful.”
• “Forget the dog. Beware of the mom.”
• “When you have a child, your “wants” come lost. It’s about their needs & wants first. If you can’t do that, you don’t deserve to be a parent.”
• “Too much love never spoils children. Children become spoiled when we substitute “presents” for “presence.”
• “Wise parents prepare their children to get along without them.”
• “Nothing is weaker or smaller than the man who hurts women or children whether by his actions or by his words.”
• “The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other.”
• “What a difficult time for a child when they find out their parent used and manipulated them to hurt someone they love.”
• “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
• “But who’s going to take care of you when you’re older? I’m not selfish I’m going to bring someone into this world just so they can take care of me.”
• “Self-absorbed people only think about what makes them feel good at the moment. They don’t have any respect or regard for anyone else. Then they wonder why their relationships fail.”
• “The hard thing is, you try to help them but still you’re the bad one.”
• “As a child, I never imagined that all of the real monsters in the world would be humans.”
• “Divorce doesn’t scar children. Selfish parents with insecurities do.”
• “Sometimes problems don’t require a solution to solve them; instead they require maturity to outgrow them.”
• “If you can’t make sacrifices for your kids, you don’t deserve them. A true parent would give their life and their very last breath!

Quotes About Parents Being selfish

1. “Having kids doesn’t make parents. Raising them does.”
2. Quotes about selfish parents
3. “Being a selfish parent is a sign of not having learned from experience.”
4. “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.”
5. “Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”
6. “If all the people in this world, in which we live, were as selfish as a few of the people in this world, in which we live, there would be no world in which to live.”
7. “If you are too busy to enjoy quality time with your family, then you need to re-evaluate your priorities.”